How To Be Comfortable In Uncomfortable Situations
Introduction
I want to talk to you today about how to be comfortable in uncomfortable
situations. So on any given week we feel a whole ray of emotions: Anger,
sadness, being irritable, frustrated, overwhelmed and as soon as we feel these
feelings we immediately start to label them and judge them and we have thoughts
like: "I don't want to be feeling this way," "I want to shift out of this as
quickly as possible," "How can I get out of this?" "How did I get in to this?"
"This is wrong," "This is bad."
Human Beings Are Emotional Creatures
But here is the thing, those emotions are not bad. No emotion is either all the
way bad or good. They are just emotions and they actually have a great gift in
them when we let ourselves feel them and when we have all these thoughts and we
are judging them, we are actually disconnecting from ourselves from the
shoulders down.
When in our heads, we are not feeling our feelings, we are not feeling our
body and we are not connected to our true essence inside of ourselves. So what
you really want to do is be able to be in those experiences, feel those emotions
and let them be okay, which is tricky to do! It is not always easy to be in an
uncomfortable situation or be angry at somebody and to let that be okay and to
not judge it. Also to not have thoughts about it, to be able to be relaxed and
to be calm. When you can do that, then you can find the gift that is in the
situation.
Hot Sauce Meditation
So the best way to practice this is to have an exercise and experience or a
challenge which of course I have for you. That is what this little bottle here
is, this is hot sauce. Actually, this is Maui Pepper Mango Meltdown hot sauce.
This particular one has habanero pepper.
My challenge for you is to get your own hot sauce. Any flavor, any type of
pepper will do and if you happen to like hot sauce, get the hottest one you can
find. I actually did not like hot sauce until a couple of months ago, even
regular pepper was too spicy for me but then I started this practice and I love
it so much that now we have like seven bottles in our house. So, the practice is
you put a little bit of hot sauce on your finger. You put it in your mouth, on
your tongue and your initial reaction is, "Oh my gosh, this is awful. This is
bad. I have a five-alarm fire in my mouth."
This needs to stop as soon as possible because that's just your mind running
rapid and so the practice starts with quieting your mind, letting the thoughts
pass in one ear and out the other and letting it be okay, telling yourself that
its totally okay and fine, this is not a bad situation.
Your second thing to do is to really breathe and relax. So just focus on your
breath, relax your body and just be present with what's going on.
Keep Your Mouth Closed
Your third step is do not open your mouth, whatever you do. If the air comes in,
you're in trouble and even in life, right? A lot of times we want to immediately
talk or say something and it is better to be quiet and to be in ourselves and to
be with what's going on for us. So, keep your mouth closed, generate a lot of
saliva in your mouth because that will help and then see what you can feel. So
oftentimes there's a burning sensation. That is all we focus on is the burning,
how bad it is but when you do steps one, two, three, you will actually start to
notice it. It is a tingling sensation and that tingling sensation is actually
pretty pleasurable and when you can feel that tingling sensation, then notice
what area of your mouth is it on. Is it in front of your mouth? Back of your
mouth, the sides and when you really start to develop this practice deeper, you
can magnify that tingling sensation and even move it through different parts of
your body and that can become really pleasurable and that's the gift in this
particular experience. But in real life, the gift can be a plethora of other
things.
Homework Assignment
This is my challenge for you this week, get your own special little bottle of
hot sauce. Try out the experiment. Let me know how it goes. Post the comment
below and just start training your body to be comfortable in these uncomfortable
situations. Make sure to share this with a friend if you think that they
could benefit from taking on the challenge and learning how to be comfortable in
uncomfortable situations and to let themselves really feel what their emotions
are. Much love, look forward to hearing your comments below.
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