Making Long Distance Relationships Work
 Nothing can be more challenging to a couple than a long distance
relationship. While there are cases when both parties can develop into more
independent and appreciative lovers, many relationships reach bitter ends as
partners can’t take the challenges of having to live away from each other
geographically. When lovers don’t meet often, problems arise due to issues of
fidelity, honesty and trust too often turn relationships sour.
Separated Lovers
People who are deeply in love may be separated by many reasons. Part of this
population may have ended up being away from their partners either on purpose or
by unforeseen consequences. Some met at unexpected places and fell in love, yet
they have to get back to where their lives are. In many cases, couples have to
separate due to sudden transfer for a job or other major changes in life.
Trust, coupled with constant and open communication, is the most important
aspect when it comes to making a long distance relationship work. Even the most
minor worries or apprehension about a partner affect the relationship and may
become a factor of whether it should go on or halt it completely. Though this
type of relationship requires hard work, there are couples who were able to get
through all the hardships and made their relationships work.
Here are some tips on how to stay happy in a long distance relationship:
Mutually Set the Rules
 Setting ground rules is one way to make long distance love affairs work. You
may not be able to see each other often, so be sure to set guidelines that give
the relationships utmost importance. Be clear on your status and create no
confusion on whether you both are dating, engaged, boyfriend-girlfriend and
exclusive or non-exclusive. Decide on how often you should talk, update each
other about schedules or any changes to them, and whether you both have to
commit to a non-flirting lifestyle while away from each other. Above all else,
make it a point to reach an agreement of having to meet as soon as possible.
Maintain Constant Communication
 Since seeing each other is a rarity, so it is essential to establish and
maintain your emotional connection. You don’t have to talk about very serious
things all the time. Instead, update each other with daily experiences,
challenges, discoveries and even misfortunes you may have encountered. You
should not wait for some major event to happen just to pick up the phone and
talk to your significant other. Make updates real-time by taking advantage of
what technology has to offer. When talking in front of the webcam is a
challenge, try to make use of voice conversations. To make it even more special,
send love letters or other gifts that you know your partner will appreciate.
Pursue Your Mutual Interests
When your partner goes away, it doesn’t mean you will have to stop doing the
things you enjoy doing together. Even if it means you will have to watch your
favorite TV show, go on a jog, or see your most-anticipated movie on your own. Doing these activities will make you even more excited to share thoughts and
have something to talk about when you call. Find some creative ways to fuel your
romance like deciding to read the same book by your favorite author and share
your views afterward with your partner. Perhaps do some stargazing
simultaneously over the phone and share feelings with one another. You can defy
distance by enjoying the same computer game that you both love to play or
singing your favorite song while on a webcam conference together. There are so
many ways to make your partner realize you are thinking of him/her always.
 Don’t Be a Control Freak
Though it is somehow difficult to totally trust from a distance, never be
tempted to control your partner’s life. Despite your doubts or worries, make
your partner feel that you value his/ her freedom. When both people are
confident, they can do things without having to explain every single detail to
an overly jealous or controlling partner. Achieving this will let the
relationship work, and they will stick together in spite of the distance that
may separate two lovers. When one feels suffocated and strangled by being
controlled, distance has nothing to do with it because a controlling
relationship can end even a localized relationship.
Avoid Temptations
Staying faithful to your lover is of utmost importance in long distance
relationships as well as traditional ones. Remember, for this to succeed, it
requires the cooperation and compromise from both partners. When you start to do
something beyond what your mutual rules state, you may end up feeling guilty
even if he/she doesn't figure out what you did. One very good way to avoid
getting tempted is to introduce your lover to your colleagues. Through this,
friends of the opposite sex will realize you are committed and they should not
start showing interest anymore. Additionally, your sweetheart may suspect them
as a possible rival, so letting him/her know about the company you keep gives
the idea that you are not hiding anything. In addition, avoid going to places
where people get drunk and lose control. Practice empathy and think about how
your partner may feel if they knew about some of the questionable things you may
have done..
Conclusion
Nothing is stronger than the desire and love between two people who want to
make their romance last. Depending on your partner’s personality, you can find
ways to strengthen your relationship and solidify your aim to stay together. Despite the challenges facing long distance relationships, a happy marriage
where love, trust and respect can be achieved if these steps are followed. Instead of making distance a hindrance, consider it an opportunity for showing
your affection by going that extra mile to show how much you care. Love, when
true and generous, bridges the gap across time zones, territories and
shortcomings.
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